Child Welfare Agencies – Why Are They Often NOT Looking Out For The Chldren?

Something that seems pretty much universal no matter where you look in the country, on the continent, or even in the world, is the state of the child welfare agencies. Though they have names like “Child And Family Services of *insert place*”, they seem often, unaware or blind to there objective, the protection of children they are looking out for.

There is no shortage of big cases that make the national news, such as the Phoenix Sinclair (  http://www.google.ca/?gws_rd=cr#bav=on.2,or.r_qf.&fp=5b02d6e7fbf95d8c&q=phoenix+sinclair ) case out of Winnipeg. The ones that end nastily, always get the most media attention.

But what about the rest of the children?

I will be honest up front, this is a full on rant, that may or may not be mainly about a certain child welfare agency in my local area.

In any case, when it comes to the foster care system, and being in such a home, the picture that pops into my mind, is of a nice family home situation. Maybe a single parent or a couple, with adequate means to support a child, who has done all they can to show that they can be a good parent(s). And after adoption, my idea is that the agency can drop by for surprise visits, just to ensure that all is well.

But it seems that, possibly more often then not, such a common and sensible situation, just, isn’t the case in reality.

Take one person whom I know. They were put into the foster system, because there biological single parent was having trouble when it came to discipline of the person at the time.
Though the parent tried to lay down the law of the house, the daughter would flat out refuse to follow, and pretty much made there own rules. So the parent reached out to the child welfare agency, both for help with the disciplinary situation,  and because they had some other issues of there own at the time, that was affecting life in the home.

And so the daughter was sent away, and placed into a foster home (a family of 3, one son), which at the time looked to be an ideal and nice place.

But as time moved on, cracks appeared in the facade.

The family also had in there care, at least 2 other girls, and they all shared the same room. At least one of them turned out to be a thief, so nothing of value could be left anywhere in sight or where it could be found. The parents were apparently lazy a lot, choosing to opt for fast food as opposed to cooking at home (im not against a treat every so often. But most of the time? No.). And one of the parents was a chain smoker, and insisted on smoking in the house.

It culminated one day, when  the kid had an entire paychecks worth of cash on them, and the parents refused to take them to the bank to deposit it securely. As a result, one of the other foster girls got a hold of it. And by the time they found out, it was  spent. The kid never got that money back.

Looking back, it becomes obvious that the parents interest  was more about getting the regular check for each kid  then it was about looking out for there well being.

Had there been surprise visits, that may have weeded these bad apples out.

But the problems of the child care system, do not just stem from inadequate supervision of foster homes and parents. Even the homes run by the personnel of the organization itself, can be a nightmare.

I know one person who grew up in such a group home, but turned out alright, but it seems he is a minority of sorts. I do not know his whole story, but I have a few of my own, having lived in the vicinity of one such place for much of my life.

A decade or so ago, a family bought a home on a quiet street in a nice neighborhood for a fairly good price, considering the size of the home and the land. The area was all around nice, but the home was situated next to a big 2 story place, which turned out to be a group home for troubled youth.

In the first few years, there was much friction between the kids of the home and the neighbors. Partly fueled by the words of one of the members of the organization, who stated that once the kids are off the property, they are not responsible for there actions.  Which is frankly, FUCKING retarded.
Considering that if I committed a crime off my home property, my parent would be still responsible for me.

In any case, for the neighbors, after years of playing tag with higher ups in the organization, and eventually getting the home phone number of one of them, suddenly a fence was erected around the property.

This did a lot to solve the problem, since it gave more privacy then the tiny picket fence of old.

In recent years however, the problem changed.

Instead of the kids being the biggest problem, it went to the councilors. Just in there dealings with the neighbors alone, many of them are fucking MORONS.

I know someone who has been in an almost constant battle with them, and there assholery.

Mainly with there inconsiderate nature, of taking a shoveled parking spot in the front of the home next door, because they don’t bother to shovel out there parking areas, front or back. Its actually quite amusing to watch, because though the councilors try and use the same assholery on this guy as they do on there kids, the guy can be just as much of a prick, right back.

Its the most hilarious thing, and I bet the kids LOVE it.

And I have heard some interesting things, just from overhearing conversations within the yard of the place, all late in the evening.

I have heard the kids confronting there councilors for there immaturity, and rightfully.

I have heard the kids knock on the door of the place, sometimes for 30 or more minutes STRAIGHT, asking to be let in.

I have heard the kids begging to be let in to use the bathroom (a girl), then after awhile, overheard them say “thanks a lot, I pissed in the garden!”. Something tells me that this would fall under child abuse, for any other parent.

If the majority of the councilors are fucking jerk offs like this, its really no wonder that many of these kids turn out on the wrong side of the law.

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST, I can not contain my disdain for the useless fucking organization that is supposed to be looking out for kids around here. Seriously, FUCK YOU you bunch of ignorant unintelligent fucking PRICKS!!!!!!!!!!!

Now that thats out of my system, we can talk solutions.

Though each area of the world has different specifics, what I will go though below, should be interchangeable.

First of all, foster parents need to be checked a LOT more then they are being checked now (if they are at all). And there should also be communication with the kids, so that the parents don’t just present a facade. A minimum number of foster children one can care for at a time, may also be helpful (weed out those just out for the extra money).

And when it comes to the group homes and other such settings, once again, get the fucktards the hell OUT of there. Its no wonder many kids  grow up fucked up, if thats the bullshit they put up with.

And after that clean up is done, revamp the whole way the system works. If the kids are calling the place a home and living there, then why are the councilors there, running on shift work? Its no wonder they don’t give a fuck much of the time, they see it as a 8 or 12 hour job.

Get rid of the shifts, and start having them working in say, 1, 2, 3 day intervals. Have more then one, so that they can spell each other off and sleep. During that time, they will actually “live” in the place. This should do 3 things:

1.) Give them a better attitude, because if they start something, they are stuck with the consequences for more then a short time.

2.) Help them grow more appreciative of the neighborhood and its inhabitants.

3.) Weed out the people only working for the check, or out for the power trip.

Is this doable? I don’t know.

What I do know however, is we can sure as hell do better then we are now.

The War On Christmas

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Its 4:37am local time, and im having trouble crashing out (im guessing, due to the red bull drank earlier to wake me up), so ill use this time to write here about a subject that has amused (and irritated) me for the last few years.

Some could say im 4 months late (or 8 months early) for this topic, but ill cover it anyway. The War On Christmas.

Ive heard about this so called “fight” in the media for the last few years. And even come across one person (a customer I served at my old gas bar job) whom proudly wore a badge reading “Keep The Christ In Christmas”. Something I found hilarious, because he always threw his cards at me, and was the most miserable old FUCK I knew (did I mention, his cards identified his employer to be the local child protective agency (Child and Family Services)?).

Even on facebook, members of the family would pass on these idiotic defending Christmas oriented memes. Telling there friends about how they are PROUD to say “Merry Christmas!”, instead of the less Christ-inclusive “Happy Holidays” or “Seasons Greetings“.

And indeed, the holidays have changed a lot. Not because of us evil asshole atheists, but because the world has woken up and recognized that Christians are not the only group that has holiday celebrations in the last part of December. And some groups do not celebrate at all. Not all non-celebratory groups are secular either.  The world has become a very diverse place, and so our society is recognizing that.

But I do see one thing that has managed to hijack “Christmas”, and pretty much every other holiday that there is. And its not secularism either! Its capitalism.

I have never known an “old” Christmas, but for me personally, it is a holiday that is meant for family interaction. A time to get together with friends and relatives, maybe have a bite to eat or a few drinks. And its also a time, to be charitable (though, arguably, the time for that is every day, but I digress . . .) .

But today, I see the vast majority of people interpreting the “charity” aspect of the holiday, as meaning a shopping spree on gifts for all there family and friends. People go into debt, and get overly stressed out, just to fill in that Christmas list. Or are proud to brag about gaining 20 pounds because of all they ate.

And the holiday is no longer about spending time with family, its more about gifts. How many, what kind, what do I want. Children now grow up feeling entitled to a gift or 20 every Christmas (and feel compelled to give in the same way). And if you watch many children’s cartoons, they also add to this problem to.

I know people, now grown adults, with this childish crap still firmly engrained in there brains. But im glad, to have kicked the Christmas shopping habit.

It happened a few years back, after there was a family scrap between my father and another family member, because he had forgotten to bring her gift with us when we left town (it was bought and wrapped, just at home, 200kms away). The family member and my sis were visibly upset that the gift had stayed home.

All I thought was, we have not seen each other in over 6 months. And your telling me, that a mistake that could happen to anyone, a FUCKING forgotten present, is more important then our mere presence? We drove 200kms, and your mad we left the GIFT?!?!

That left me kind of ticked off, but I made a change the next year in my holiday spending. Instead of the normal spending spree on useless materialistic crap that would eventually get thrown out or shelved (and that we REALLY, do not need), I put the money to charity’s. The first year I donated to Drs without boarders.

In following years, when the funds were available, I donated to a wide variety of organizations, from a local mission in Winnipeg (to help some less fortunate have a good meal), to environmental charities, to humanitarian charities.  I do have a very short gift list (parents and a couple friends), but otherwise ive sworn off gifts totally. I do not give, but I do not expect either.

Part of the reason I gave up giving, was because of the ecological costs of Christmas. When you consider all the factors (materials used in all that Christmas “crap” were buying, fuel used in shipping the stuff, AND fuel used in moving ourselves all over the country), the Christmas footprint on the enviroment is HUGE.

The above is a link to the song “Christmas Time Is Killing Us”, from the 2010 Family Guy Christmas Special. Still a favorite of mine, because of the underling message of the episode, made brilliantly clear by the song.

But another reason I quite following the Christmas crowd, was the whole stress part. Preparing for a holiday of happiness, should NOT be stressful. And yet people make it so.

But I admit, one of the bigger Christmas spirit killers, was people themselves. Being in retail, I got to serve people, and they often showed no respect at all. They didn’t at the gas bar where I worked, and they don’t at the grocery store I work at (leaving carts all over the lot, among other things).

At first, the thought of dropping the shopping seemed an ENORMOUS task, since I didn’t know how other people would react to it. But then I realized, it is not there money that is at play, it is YOURS. You can spend it on whatever you want (or not spend it!), and if they don’t like it, to bad.

Fortunately enough, some family members had already started doing this, so it wasn’t all that new. I admit, I didn’t even donate this year, but im hoping to make up for it this summer upon getting a more secure financial platform.

But, the point of the post is this. Though Jesus gets his name dragged into this debate all the time, im thinking he would be appalled by what Christians consider a proper “Christmas” today.

So if you find yourself running around the grocery store and the big box, going into debt and stressed to the max, all in preparation to the most happy holiday of the year, consider this all when judging who the great “Christmas Killer” is.

Secularists. Or Capitalists.